We Make Time

Partner Participation FAQ
Program FAQ
Scheduling FAQ
Sign on problems FAQ

Q. What if my partner does not want to participate?
A. Initially, it is common for one partner to be more interested about participating. It is so important for you to understand that WeMakeTime.com was designed to benefit you as an individual but more importantly as a couple. It was created in an easy-to-use format that makes both partners happy from the very beginning. WeMakeTime.com provides the tools necessary to break down relationship walls and to help couples commit to making positive changes within their relationship.

Q. My partner just doesn't understand the importance of communication?
A. Getting both partner's thoughts and feelings is extremely important in a successful relationship. It is the key to understanding each person's needs. Communication within a non-threatening environment allows for an interaction that enhances happiness, fulfillment and the meeting of personal needs. Letting your partner know "how you feel" is very important. And this goes for both men and women.

Q. My partner is not a good listener. What can I do?
A. Signing up for WeMakeTime.com is a wonderful way to increase communication, especially listening skills. The program places your relationship as a priority and helps you and your partner focus on each other. Dedicating specific time to each other is often the first step to increasing communication and listening skills. Being able to focus and listen is a difficult task in a relationship, usually affecting men more so than women. Remember, the WeMakeTime.com experts will routinely send you valuable tips to help with your relationship challenges.

My partner is not using the information at WeMakeTime.com?
A. For some people the idea of change is difficult. The program is set up to give member's tools that are easy-to-use and apply to relationships in a "real world" manner. As your partner discovers the value of WeMakeTime.com they will see that the benefits will be mutual. Making your partner happy and satisfied results in personal happiness and satisfaction. Some people make changes at a slower pace than others. Be open-minded and patient. The longer a person is on the program, the greater the positive outcome.

PROGRAM

Q. Can I really get Guilt-Free Personal Time?
A. WeMakeTime.com helps you reconnect with your partner and gain true personal time without guilty feelings. Taking time for oneself is a key component to being a better person within a relationship. Life begins to regain balance when each individual can take time for themselves and do "as they please" while the other person takes care of household responsibilities, including the children.
Giving your partner the opportunity to "get away" for a walk, meet some friends, go shopping, go to the spa, go to a sporting event or whatever, allows them to grow as a person by meeting their individual needs.
However this positive result is only possible if the personal time is within the context of a guilt-free, supportive environment. This quality time revitalizes them and makes them a better person, partner, and parent! In addition, this time allows the other partner time to show their support for the one they love by acknowledging how important this time is by taking care of household responsibilities, including the children.

Q. Why not just use my own calendar to schedule activities? Why should I spend the money and sign up?
A. Psychologists and counselors routinely ask couples to schedule time together to help the relationship. In today's fast paced and busy world couples need to carve out specific time for each other. Unfortunately people do not have the tools to successfully accomplish this and do not follow through with the time commitment. WeMakeTime.com gives you the specific tools needed to incorporate scheduling into your life in a fun and easy way.
Both men and women will benefit from this proven system that goes well beyond just a calendar of events.

Q. How do I stay on track with the program?
A. WeMakeTime.com offers support, support, and more support! For example, as a member you will receive frequent emails that focus on relationship issues that are uniquely specific to both women and men. These are easy-to-use, "real world" ideas that are practical and get directly to the point. Also, every month you will be reviewing your previous month by rating yourself and your partner.
This is an important step in the process that will add direction to your next month's scheduling of events.

Q. Is program going to take a lot of work and time?
A. No. The beauty of WeMakeTime.com is that the benefits of the program begin immediately because the program is set up in a way that is fun and easy to accomplish. Dr. Steve and Steve did the work for you. Reading in-depth relationship books or taking one hour questionnaires are not required. They have set up a sure-fire program that gives you the proven tools to have a happier and more fulfilling relationship.
They have formed a plan that helps you "cut to the chase" and get down to business, meeting each others needs as a couple and an individual. This program changed their lives and it can change yours too!

SCHEDULING

Q. Can I schedule two events on the same day?
A. Certainly, you may schedule two relationship strengthening activities on the same day. As an example, you might schedule a date night out and intimacy night, combining two relationship strengthening activities in one day. This is accomplished by adding both activities on the calendar. Remember, be realistic and make sure that the proper focus is still possible.

Q. I look at the calendar and it looks so full of activities. How can I do all of this and my other monthly routine activities?
A. Take a deep breath and be realistic. These activities you are scheduling with your partner are usually in the evening or only for a limited amount of time. They are not the only activity for the day. Also, remember when your relationship was the focal point of your life and everything had "balance". You can have that balance again and have a successful and happy relationship. The truth is, once you strengthen your personal relationship with your partner everything else runs much more smoothly!

Q. You mean we will schedule sex?
A. Sexual intimacy is important in relationships because women and men are often on different cycles. In today's fast paced and busy world, lives are full of activity. We are all very busy with careers, children, after school activities, household chores and other life demands. Because of this, true intimacy and sex takes a back seat and places a strain on the relationship. Being on the same "page" with your partner is difficult. Some nights one partner may feel romantic and initiate sex but the other is just too tired from the busy day or not "in-the-mood" to respond.
Even though the "tired partner" is not trying to hurt the other they begin to feel rejected. Also, the "tired partner" feel bad about saying "no". This may happen a couple times and one begins to feel resentment or even inadequate. This is a negative cycle that will have very serious effects on the relationship. Scheduling a time to put distractions aside and focus on intimacy as a couple is essential to a successful relationship. WeMakeTime.com has a format that helps each partner initiate the event and gives helpful and fun suggestions for both women and men.

Q. Shouldn't sex be spontaneous?
A. The real problem with spontaneity in today's relationships is that it rarely, if ever, happens. Being on the "same page" with your partner is very difficult, especially when it comes to sex. WeMakeTime.com breaks down the walls by helping partners reconnect in all aspects of a relationship, including sexually. WeMakeTime.com will help you become more connected, leading to a more fulfilling relationship with more spontaneity. Following to a scheduled plan together and connecting with your partner is an important step. After this, your love and respect will continue to grow and spontaneity can develop outside of the scheduled WeMakeTime.com program.

Q. What if we can't agree on dates when we schedule?
A. This is very common in today's busy world. First, be realistic with the number of times for the event you are trying to schedule. If you have to go back and lower your numbers, go ahead. Second, be realistic with the amount of time for each event. Spending 30 minutes of quality time on a "Date Night In" may be sufficient. It doesn't have to be an entire evening! Third, both partners need to be respectful. It is time to make your relationship a top priority. Relax and compromise.
It's time to become an active couple again, so open your mind and move forward. Remember, when the WeMakeTime.com plan is successfully implemented, both individuals equally benefit. Finally, "cut each other some slack." It's OK to give in and see things from the other's perspective. It's also OK to see that your partner is giving in and take the time tell them how much you appreciation it!

Q. What distractions do we have to limit during events?
A. Placing your relationship as a priority means that distractions are controlled as best as possible. These can include, children going to bed a little early, letting the answering machine receive calls, turning the TV off, putting work away, looking past the household chores that need to be done, etc.

Q. How long does "Date Night In" have to be?
A. There is no set amount of time. It has to meet the needs of the couple. Some couples only need 30 minutes of quality time together to feel fulfilled. Others may need an hour or more. Feel it out. See what is best for the two of you. Remember, be realistic and start out slow.

Q. What type of things can we do on a "Date Night In"?
A. Date Night In is meant to be a time when you focus on each other as a couple. You limit the distractions (Children, job, phone, household chores, etc.) and concentrate on each other. WeMakeTime.com gives you suggestions. This is a time to place your relationship as a priority and be together. It is not meant to be a session to complain about each other. It is a time to do an activity that will strengthen the relationship. This can include a discussion of an issue but is not meant to be the entire focus. Spend a few minutes discussing that issue, come to a compromise, and move on to something fun. Go to the WeMakeTime.com website for suggestions.

Q. I already have so much to do, how can I fit all this into my schedule?
A. This is exactly why you need to join WeMakeTime.com. Having a happy and fulfilling relationship with your partner enhances all other areas of your life. Using the easy-to-use "real world" tools will make your life better by helping you prioritize the relationship with your partner and your family.

Q. What if something comes up and we can't do a scheduled event?
A. Once the schedule has been agreed upon only "unexpected" events or emergencies should alter your relationship strengthening event. It is important to understand that a commitment is necessary from both people involved which contributes to the overall increase in communication and happiness in the relationship. Let's make it perfectly clear that you never "force" your partner to do something that they do not want to do. However if an event must be rescheduled it should be done within the next 7 days. Remember to show respect and you will reap the rewards.

Q. What if I decide I don't want to participate in the intimacy or sex?
A. It is certainly your decision, and if the answer is no, it is no. However, the program has been designed to show commitment to your partner. Once the schedule has been agreed upon only unexpected events or emergencies can impact the plan. It is important to understand that a commitment is necessary from both people involved which contributes to the overall increase in communication and happiness in the relationship. Remember, just knowing that an event is scheduled at a given time brings happiness to the individuals involved. It is a wonderful part of a happy and fulfilling relationship.

Q. I have trouble finding baby-sitters and even feel uncomfortable leaving my kids while I am out. What can I do?
A. Naturally, you should never leave your children with someone you do not trust. Use family members and referrals from friends to find good sitters. It is so important you make the time for your relationship and spend Date Night "out" with your partner. It's OK to leave your kids with a responsible sitter that you trust and not feel guilty. Remember, your kids will be happier in a happier home.

Sign On and Account Problems

Q. What do I do if I can't create an account?
A. Please send us an email describing how far into the account creation process you were able to complete, as well as, the error you received.

Q. What if I can't log in to my account?
A. Verify that you are logging in with the correct password and username. We also recommend clearing your browser's cookies and temporary internet files and then try logging in again. After trying the above methods, If you still cannot find your profile, contact us.

Q. What if I forgot my password?
A. Lost passwords can be retrieved by clicking here and supplying us with the username you created your account with. Your password will be emailed to this address shortly.

Q. How do I change my email address?
A. Your e-mail address is found under "User Registration." Start by clicking on "login" in the top navigation menu from WeMakeTime(TM) home page. Login to your personal home page, click on "User Registration" appearing under your picture. You will be taken to your "User Registration" page. Once there, type in the new email address you want to use and click on "Update Info". You will receive an email to your old address asking you to confirm the email change. Follow the link in the email and confirm the code and your email will be changed. If you do not have access to your old email account, please send us an email with the old email address, the password for the account and the email address you want to change it to.

Q. How do I change my password?
A. Your password is found under "User Registration." Start by clicking on "Login" in the top navigation menu on the WeMakeTime(TM) home page. Once on your personal home page, click on "User Registration" appearing under your picture. You will be taken to your "Account Settings" page. Click on "Change Password". Enter your old password, your new password, confirm your new password and click "Change". You can now log in using your new password.

Q. How do I change my personal information?
A. You may change your name, age, and/or add to the information on your Profile through "Edit Profile." Start by clicking on "login" in the top navigation menu on the upper right hand corner of the home page. Once on your personal page, click on "Edit Profile," appearing in the mid-left portion of the page, under your picture. You will be taken to your "Edit Profile" page where you may edit or add information.

Q. Where do I change my default picture?
A. Go to your personal space under build/edit profile. Browse and click upload.